Thursday, September 4, 2008
I Don't Have a Girlfriend
I think that the classic Christian single person's approach is, "God, you've gotta bust me over the head with a mate, a spouse." And really I think the biggest thing is just having the patience to wait for the person that God wants you to spend the rest of your life with...It's hard...I think that's basically the deal: it's just trusting God. I don't think God is that dumb. I think that he gives us enough wisdom, enough intelligence to be able to know, as His child, when our life partner comes our way.
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I agree, but I also feel that is why we date. We date to find out what exactly we are looking for in a person and to learn how to be in a relationship with someone. That doesn't mean the first or even the third or fourth person we date is the right person. Maybe they were just someone God sent along to keep us company at the right time or someone God thought we could learn a life lesson from, but not someone we should spend the rest of our life with.
What did ya say about having a girlfriend???
I have to disagree with you Anonymous. I strongly believe that if you are trusting in and obeying God He WILL lead you to the right person the first time. I think that it makes the relationship so much more special when that person has been the ONLY person to ever know you in your entirety (besides God obviously). God honors those who want to honor their future spouse by saving themselves (emotionally and physically) just for that one person. Like Sam said, it's having enough faith in God to believe that He will let you know...and I believe He will.
Wow... we could get a debate going. I agree that God can lead you to your perfect mate the first time you date, but I also (and I am a parent!!) do not see any harm in dating for the benefit of getting to know someone that you find interesting. Those sometimes turn into lasting friendships, but not "spouses". As long as you date in a proper way, as would be pleasing to Christ, what harm is there in going ice skating, laughing, having fun and getting a StarBucks drink to warm up? It doesn't need to involve your emotions on a level that would be hurtful if one day you decide not to date any more.. and certainly Should NOT involve being physical. That is good advice whether or not he/she IS going to be your companion for life or not. Too many lives have been less than the best, because of physical relationships. Young People... ask God how he would have you behave in a dating relationship. He'll reward you with the BEST!
It sounds like what you are talking about Anonymous #3 is a friendship, not a dating relationship. I know people who are in that state right now, going ice-skating, going to Starbucks, having fun, and they aren't dating. They're just friends.
this is to let everyone know that i am not anonymous.
I've sparked quite a debate. Hehe
Anonymous #1: I understand what you are saying about dating in order to know what people are like and to find out what you want in a future mate. Problem is, it's just like people who have sex with lots of people for the same reason.
Anonymous #4: I agree with your conclusion of friendship.
The problem is that dating is like love: it's such a vague term. You've gotta start off by defining terms.
But I'm sticking to my guns. *smiles*
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